At the end of this month a year has passed since I left my host family, which means it is two years ago, that I started as an Au Pair. Due to this “anniversary” I thought I would write some post about the life as an Au Pair and my experiences. Maybe some of you are thinking about work a year as an Au Pair and need some advice.
Please feel free to ask me any questions or tell me a problem you have via E-Mail or in the comment section down below. I will do my best to answer it.
I have written a blog post about traveling the world as an Au Pair, if you are interested it that Topic you can find the post here.
Being an Au Pair is a great Thing. I would recommend it to everyone, who doesn´t know what to do after finishing school. You learn so many things about yourself, child care, things you want to change, and the country you´re staying in. You learn for life and about life. And you also realize what your parents, or your family in general has done for you all these years.
But of course there are some negative aspects as well.
There can be problems with the relationship/connection to the children and/or the parents. You may have to do things nobody told you about in anticipation. The Family situation can be completely different as what it was described, and may more things.
But the worst thing about being an Au Pair is the point is time, when you have to leave the family and the children, when you are going back home.
I remember the day before my departure as if it was yesterday. My little princess and I were sitting in the conservatory. She was sitting on my lap, crying so heavily, her entire body was shaking. I was crying with her. We both cried for half an hour. My Little princess couldn´t even speak one sentence without sobbing. It felt like I had broken her heart, like deceiving or betraying her.
The last weeks before my departure the Little one always asked me how many days were left until I would leave. And when I told him the remaining days, he would ask if that´s long. If I said no, he answerd with:”Well, but a little long.”
When you are back home, on one hand happy to see all your friends and Family, but on the other hand sad not to have the Little ones around you, you try to settle back in. Which, let me tell you, is not that easy.
For one year or maybe even longer you made your own rules, done the household your way and have lived more independently. Now you have to fit back in, into your “old life”. It is like taking a piece out of a puzzle, cutting it into a different shape and trying to put it back on its old place. It doesn´t really work. It is not easy to fit back in, not for you and not for your surrounding.
It feels like no one understands you. You tell them your stories, things you have experienced. Your friends are listening to you, maybe smile. When you have finished, they may say, “That sounds great.” and in the next Moment they talk about their upcoming assignments, or their annoying boss.
I don´t know, but it feels like really gets, what you are talking about. It may be different with friends, who have been abroad as well. But even if they have, they probably haven´t experienced the same things.
When you have overcome all of this, there is another thing. You sit down and scroll through your Facebook or Instagram feed and you see pictures of your Little friends and their new Au Pair, happily smiling, doing things you have done with them, or even “invented” doing.
That really hurts, it feels like a stab in your heart.
After on year back home, seeing these pictures is not nice. Maybe it is just me, who feels this way. I don´t know. Please let me know if you have similar feelings, or experienced the same.